Am I the Only One on This Highway?
What shifting lanes teaches us about inner battles and the need for an anchor.
The Three-Lane Highway
At times, life feels like a three-lane motorway. There is a constant switching from one lane to another — in work, identity, or relationships — searching for the “right” one. The assumption is that the chaos comes from others, from external competition or pressure.
But often, the realisation dawns: the road is empty. The only car on the highway is the self. The battles, the tension, even the road rage, are internal.
The Inner Battle We Don’t Recognise
So much energy goes into believing the struggle is external — competing demands, cultural expectations, the weight of circumstance. Yet many discover that:
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The competition is internal.
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The conflict is self-created.
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The battle is with oneself.
Lane-switching, in this sense, is less about movement toward a destination and more about wrestling with inner restlessness.
Why We Keep Switching Lanes
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Fear of Settling: Staying in one lane can feel like missing out on what others might offer.
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Search for Certainty: Each lane promises clarity, until it doesn’t.
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Restless Energy: Motion feels safer than stillness, even when it leads nowhere.
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Illusion of Others: The mind convinces us that the “traffic” comes from outside forces, when it is often our own noise.
The Golden Thread as Anchor
In these moments, the golden thread becomes vital. It provides an anchor through change and movement.
The golden thread does not prevent shifts between roles, identities, or directions. Instead, it offers a sense of continuity: the recognition that all lanes belong to the same journey.
Without it, the highway feels chaotic and directionless. With it, even constant shifting has coherence and meaning.
Conclusion: Driving With Clarity
Not everyone experiences life in this way, but for those who do, the recognition itself can be consoling.
Fulfilment does not always come from finding the one “correct” lane. It grows from recognising the golden thread that runs beneath it all — the anchor that turns restlessness into direction, and inner battles into insight.
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